1. Passive dependent
2. Poor self‑image/self‑concept
3. Unrealistic expectations of a husband and marriage
4. Rescue fantasies/mold into fantasy image
5. Impressed by gambler's outgoing behavior
6. Psychologically and physically abused
7. Denial as strong as gambler
8. Family history of gambling or alcohol or substance
abuse
9. Often contemplates separation/divorce
10. Fantasizing having an
extramarital affair
11. Unable to manage kids
12. Feeling trapped
13. Poor interpersonal skills
14. Inconsistent discipline with children/feeling
inadequate as a parent
15. Inconsistent message to husband/demanding at times
16. Often the enabler
17. Poor assertiveness skills
18. Allies with children against husband
19. Angry--resentful, depressed, anxious, confused, guilty
20. Often a spender/nothing but the best
21. Appearance most important
22. Physically neglectful
23. Few friends
24. Lack of sexual desire
25. Unresolved issues in father/daughter relationship
26. Grew up feeling inadequate
27. Experienced emotional deprivation
28. Frequently physical ailments
29. Codependent
30. Adult child of an alcoholic
From:
Franklin, Joanna, M.S., C.A.C. and Thoms, Donald R.,
M.S., 'Clinical Observations of Family Members of Compulsive Gamblers,' Howard
J. Shaffer, Sharon A. Stein, Blase Gambino, and Thomas N. Cummings, Compulsive Gambling:
Theory. Research and Practice,